No Rain, No Flowers

Hey there, I hope April was good to you and that you accomplished all that you wanted to. “It’s gonna be May!” and it’s time to set some new goals for the month ahead. I’m ready for those pretty May flowers to bloom.

My April 2021 favorites are as followed:

Entertainment

T.V. Shows // Current Watch List.

How ’bout that season 4 finale of ‘SnowFall’ though? That was wild. The showdown between Reed, Alton, and Franklin was too intense. I really thought Reed was going to turn over a new leaf and let things go but his ass made sure to catch that flight real quick, haha. I thought for sure Skully was going to shoot Louie but I’m glad he passed out or died instead. ‘All American’ and ‘Black Lightning’ is back, I was beginning to worry after not seeing new episodes for a while. Will there be a Pain Killer spinoff? Anyways, here are other shows currently on my watch-list:

  1. THEM. Disclaimer: this show is nothing like the movie US or Get Out. It was very racially traumatic. The ‘cat in a bag’ scene was just too much. I am sick of the narratives of black trauma. It was still a good show and it would’ve been better if the focus was just on horror.
  2. Evil Lives Here. I’ve been on a true crime binge in April and this particular show really stuck out the most and had me so emotionally invested. The episodes concerning black families are the most heart wrenching for me cause you really see how the system fails black women when they call the police for help.
  3. The Handmaid’s Tale– Season 4 premiered on April 28th. The ending of the 3rd episode had my mouth on the floor, I’m still in shock.
  4. Hip-Hop Uncovered. The untold stories of how America’s streets helped shape hip hop culture and the criminalization of the genre.
  5. A Black Lady Sketch Show– Season 2. It gives MAD TV/SNL vibes but with an all black women cast. It’s not laugh out loud hilarious but it does what needs to be done.
  6. Cruel Summer. I haven’t finished this show but it’s a mystery/thriller about a girl who goes missing and another girl who takes over her life.
  7. Who Killed Sara?. I haven’t finished this show either but it’s about a man getting revenge and trying to prove that he was framed for his sisters murder.

Movies // Film.

  1. Tina. Documentary of the life of Tina Turner. A reminder that you’re never too old to make your dreams come true and that you can overcome any battle or obstacle.
  2. What Lies Below. This movie was surprising. It definitely did not go the way I was expecting it too at all. The ending was so messed up.
  3. Biggie: I Got a Story to Tell. We still have no answers of who killed this man and it’s upsetting me and my home girl cause I feel like Suge had something to do with it or knows. It had to be in relation to the Tupac beef.
  4. Two Distant Strangers. A short film of a black man just trying to make it home to his dog.
  5. Why Did You Kill Me?. A murder documentary about an innocent person being caught in the crossfire, gang life, and how social media played a role in solving this mystery.
  6. Unhinged. I will never flip anybody off in the name of road rage again because people are really psycho out there.
  7. Concrete Cowboy. I can’t lie, I fell asleep on this one and need to re-watch it but I like the concept. Two of my favorite young black actors- Jharrel Jerome and Caleb McLaughlin are in it.
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Music.

My song of the month will definitely have to go to: ‘Kiss Me More’ by Doja Cat ft. SZA. It instantly makes me want to sing and dance along. Doja Cat has some of the best live performances, don’t debate me. I also enjoyed listening to the DMX essentials playlist on Apple Music. In addition, I watched the Isley Brothers vs. Earth, Wind, and Fire verzuz battle on Easter Sunday. Method Man and Redman also did a verzus performance on 4/20. BROCKHAMPTON’s new album is pretty dope.

The title of my April music playlist is: Introspection. In March, we renewed and in April, we introspected. Enjoy!

Podcast Episodes.

  • Supernatural with Ashley FlowersConspiracy: The Illuminati. “The Illuminati was an 18th-century secret society that supposedly ended just a decade after it began. But conspiracy theorists argue that it never really went away — it just went deeper underground, where it could slowly achieve world domination with no one the wiser.”
  • Small DosesSide Effects of DMX. “This week we pay our respects to the late DMX with a revisit and reflection on my 2005 interview with me and the mc.”
  • The Self Love FixTrusting Your Intuition. “If you feel like trusting your intuition is difficult when it comes to life changing decisions like quitting your job, making an investment in something that seems out of reach for you, or even if you struggle with fear over faith, this one is for you!”.
  • Therapy for Black GirlsThe Connection Between Menstrual Health & Mental Health. “Do you remember the conversation you had with your parents, aunties, grandma or friends when you started your menstrual cycle? Whether you’ve realized it or not, the tone and content of that conversation has likely shaped your relationship to your cycle all these years later. To help us dig into how our menstrual cycles may impact our mental health, today I’m joined by Sara Flowers, DrPH, MPH. Dr. Flowers and I chatted about how our cycle changes throughout our lives, the ways that shame often shows up related to our cycles, the importance of having conversations with one another about how our bodies change throughout life, and she shared some great suggestions for how we can talk to the younger people in our lives differently about their cycles.”
  • Jill Scott Presents: J.ill The PodcastJ.ill Loves the Hoes. “Sex is supposed to be pleasurable, but a lot of times, it’s purely transactional. On J.ill this week, one of your sista friends is completely intrigued. Light on the judgment – chile, who has the time? – but heavy on the yummy curiosity.”

New Book Alert.

  1. The Vanishing Half by: Brit Bennett. #1 New York Times bestseller and ‘Good Morning America’ book club pick. Also one of Barack Obama’s favorite books of the year. “From The New York Times-bestselling author of The Mothers, a stunning new novel about twin sisters, inseparable as children, who ultimately choose to live in two very different worlds, one black and one white.

I am so excited to read this book. I’ve heard so many good reviews. I’m forcing myself to not begin it until I finish the book I’m currently reading. I have this habit of reading books and not finishing them. Also, I would really love to start a book club with other bookworms out there.

Check out this video from Jouelzy on YouTube where she raved about this book including some other great books to read.

Fashion, Beauty, & Other Favs

1. Gallo Clothing and Alko Outlet- This store is nurse uniform galore!! I don’t know why I’m just now discovering this outlet but I’m hooked. I will definitely be back for the nurse clogs and other summer clothing. You get popular items at a discounted price and I love me a good bargain.

  • Thrifted 90s Shoulder Bag.
Remember my ‘What’s in My Bag’ blog post? This is the essential bag I was talking about.

2. Body powder in replacement of deodorant.

  • Gold Bond Ultimate Body PowderAmazon, $4.79. TMI but, most deodorant’s do not mix well with my body chemistry, they cause odor and increased sweating. My underarms are super sensitive, they will break out and have an allergic reaction in a heartbeat. Even the so-called “natural” deodorants don’t work too well for me. If I’m staying at home or doing something light-duty ish, I don’t wear deodorant at all. Recently though, wearing talc-free body powder with aloe & chamomile actually seems to help. If you have any suggestions or remedies for a good deodorant- please let me know.

3. Steel Straws.

  • Klean Kanteen Steel StrawsTarget, $7.39. Can you imagine how many other lips have touched the same glass you drunk from at a public restaurant? I don’t know why I didn’t buy one of these sooner especially being in a Pontiac, safety precautions are even more important. Don’t get me started on those spoons and forks..

4. Insulated Water Bottles.

5. The convenience and quality of hand car-washing services.

I don’t enjoy washing my own car and I couldn’t imagine trying to wash my whole car by myself. I always get my dad to help me, it’s a great bonding experience, but I love the convenience of just letting someone else wash it for me. Hand washes may cost a little bit more of my time and money but they are worth it.

I hate driving around in a dirty car, dirty is just not my aesthetic. I have anxiety about going to an automatic car wash because they may scrape your car up, and if you don’t align your car properly on the rails, your whole car finna turn sideways. And being the clumsy person that I am, that would definitely happen to me.

Food

1. Mini ‘Yard House’ Restaurant Review.

  • Yard House – Hanover, MD. Yard House’s motto is: great food and classic rock. They pride themselves on having the world’s largest selection of draft beer. I had the loaded nacho appetizer, cream of crab soup, a crab cake sandwich, and fries. There was a small wait time for a table, the service was cool, the prices were a little on the high end, the drinks/cocktails were weak- in my opinion. I completely forgot the name of the drink I had though. But overall, I would go back.

2. Beef Cuts.

  • Krave Gourmet Beef Cuts, Sweet Chipotle flavorTarget, $6.19. These beef cuts come in other yummy flavors like sea salt and black cherry barbecue. They are good for curving your hunger in between meals or as an after-meal snack. I want to start taking these with me on hiking adventures.

Life Updates

  • I’m currently studying for an important certification exam for my career.
  • One of my little cousins turned 21 on the 29th of April and I feel old as hell. Also, I know way too many April babies.
  • I’m going to be attending my 10 year high school reunion in September 2021.
  • Birria queso tacos with a side of consomé have been calling my name lately.
  • I signed up for group therapy (zoom-based).
  • I took a mental health day off from work and I didn’t feel guilty bout it. I’m also actively looking for a new job.

To be a Negro in this country and to be relatively conscious, is to be in a rage almost all of the time.

James Baldwin

love always,

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Every since I was in Elementary school, I always kept a diary. I guess you can say, as soon as I learned how to spell and form sentences- I never stopped. Writing is a true passion for me and the cheapest form of therapy. This blog was created as my digital diary and the only one I’m willing to share with the world.

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